He's Just Not That Into You

Off again yesterday. *sigh… just don’t have the motivation to go thru the Monday blues.. went to movie instead! He’s Just Not That Into You. Got ticket for the premier last week but I didn’t go cos I’ve only 1 ticket! Aku belum sampai tahap tengok movie sorang2 OK. Tho it may be fun…but I’d rather go with someone. Hmm…. I don’t wanna go thru all the movie details. I’m more interested to mengupas isu yang diketengahkan. I think every woman should watch this movie. It’s kinda wake up call you know. Knock, knock, reality check please. Hehe..

Here’s the story in a nutshell. It’s from a book with same title by Greg Behrendt (Sex and the City) and Liz Tuccillo.

Chapter 1: He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Asking You Out

Because if he likes you, trust me, he will ask you out. Men find it very satisfying to get what they want. If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons, needs to take things slow, he will let you know immediately. He won't keep you guessing because he'll want to make sure you don't get frustrated and go away. Don’t let him trick you into asking you out. Men, for most part, like to pursue women. An excuse is a polite rejection. Men are not afraid of "ruining the friendship." You are good enough to be asked out.

Chapter 2: He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Calling You

Men know how to use the phone. When you like someone, they just don't slip your mind. You know they mean it when they actually do what they said they were going to do. Men are never too busy to get what they want. If he's not calling you, it's because you are not on his mind. If he's choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn't respect your feelings and needs. You deserve a fucking phone call!

Chapter 3: He's Just Not That Into You Is He's Not Dating You

"Hanging out" is not dating. A man who's really into you is going to want you all to himself. Better than nothing is not good enough for you! If you don't know where the relationship is going, it's okay to pull over and ask. There's a guy out there who will want to tell everyone he's your boyfriend.

Chapter 4: He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Having Sex With You (Boleh Skip or translate into he’s having a secret affair Haha)

When men like you, they want to touch you, always. If a man is not trying to undress you, he's just not that into you. If you're tempted to spend countless nights just cuddling with someone, buy a puppy. There's someone out there that does want to have sex with you, hot stuff!

Chapter 5: He's Just Not That Into You If He's Having Sex With Someone Else ( same goes to this chapter)

There's never going to be a good excuse for cheating. Cheating doesn't just "happen". It was planned and executed with the full knowledge that it could end your relationship. Cheating is a complete betrayal of trust. 100% of guys polled said that they have never accidentally slept with anyone.

Chapter 6: He's Just Not That Into You If He Only Wants To See You When He's Drunk (Thankfully kite not having this problem or change it to If he's having a prob or in dilemma and nobdy else yang nak layan dia)

If he likes you, he'll want to see you when his judgment isn't impaired. It doesn't count unless he says it when he's sober. Drinking and drug use are not a path to one's innermost feelings. You deserve to be with someone who doesn't have to get loaded to be around you.

Chapter 7: He's Just Not That Into You If He Doesn't Want To Marry

Love cures commitment phobia. Don't spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you. If you don't feel like you're rushing, why are you waiting? There's a guy out there who wants to marry you.

Chapter 8: He's Just Not That Into You If He's Breaking Up With You

"I don't want to go out with you" means just that! Always be classy. Never be crazy. A breakup is a definitive action, not a democratic one. Breakup sex means you're still broken up. Cut him off. Let him miss you.

Chapter 9: He's Just Not That Into You If He's Disapppeared On You

Sometimes you have to get closure all by yourself. There's nothing worse than having no answer. No answer is your answer. Don't give him the chance to reject you again. There's no mystery-he's gone and he wasn't good enough for you.

Chapter 10: He's Just Not That Into You If He's Married (And Other Insane Variations Of Being Unavailable)

If you're not able to love fully, it's not really love. He's married. Unless he's all yours, he's still hers. Don't be that 'other' girl. tak baek kacau rumah tangga or hubungan orang..isk isk...

Chapter 11: He's Just Not That Into You If He's A Selfish Jerk, A Bully, Or A Really Big Freak

If you really love someone, you want to do things to make that person happy. So if he doesn't do those things then... You are the catch! Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with…


It’s true women (not all but most of ‘em) are brought up with a unique notion of why things happened. We tend to dissect each and every tiny lil things to find some meaning in it that we can relate to, and usually it meant what we want to believe. That’s why we clashes with men. If a man doesn’t call after a fun nite out, we dished out every excuse we can think of why he didn’t call like ‘Maybe he lost my number or is out of town or got hit by a cab!’. Whereas the most obvious reason why he didn’t call is he is just not that into you… or in some cases, he is just not into you anymore… you know, like ‘ it’s been great I think we should take time off from each other and find out what we really want’. Err... I think I’ve used that line before… and be given a derivative of that line too… haha

We hate rejection (who doesn’t?!) and that’s why we came out with thousands reason that wont hurt us as bad. Sometimes we even blame ourselves for not treating him good or whatever, so that it’ll be like he didn’t walk out cos he want to, but we made him to. Haha... Complex creature we are. One of the guy in that movie said that, if a man doesn’t call, he don’t want to. If a man is interested, he’ll make it happen, he’ll find that woman, whatever it takes.

So, if a man doesn’t want you…move on. Don’t blame on every excuse you can find. It’s pathetic and a great disservice to all women in the world. Plenty of fish out there you know… open up your options. But please don’t hookup with a guy on false pretenses. It is just ain’t right.

P’s: Someone really should sue Disney for making us believe there is happily ever after, love at first sight and all those crap ‘bout love… Watching that movie ada terasa macam 'kelepek terkena muka tuan director' hahaha

1 Litre of Tears

Off yesterday. Dunno why I apply for leave. I just felt like, I’ve had enough. I need a break. I need to break away from the Monday routine; like holding my breath everything I heard Mr. Kongkiak mentioned AFC or Celestial, or the rush of blood going up to my brain at a dizzying speed everytime the phone displays PARS-Regional Playout (tho the engineers there are cute but still…..) I’m soo bored and tensed. How come a person is bored and tense @ the same time I have no idea but that’s the way I feel. 2 years is getting far too much for me… it’s getting on my nerves. Aku taknak la sampai dapat nervous breakdown sebab keje. Dah la kerja yang tak memberi manfaat kepada umah manusia kecuali kawan2 aku yg suke tengok The Naked Chef (especially yang GAY!)… huhu tapi Jamie Oliver memang hot pon. What the heck am I babbling about…

Sedang aku berperasaan demikian, aku menonton 1 Litre of Tears ( Ichi Rittoru no Namida ) at Celestial Movies (can’t remember what channel it was tho I’m handling that channel….buduh) . I’ve watched this movie before. 3 years back I think. Memang berliter2 air mata aku keluar tengok cite ni… It is a heart wrenching, heartrending, tear jerking, poignant story about a girl Aya Kitou, fighting a degenerative disease. The movie was based on her diary, which was published after her death. It just got me thinking, if a person like that can still keep on fighting, how come a healthy kembang-mekar-harum-subur-di-hati like me can’t stop whining and complaining and wallowing in self-pity evertime something went wrong?

Kite sentiasa down bile dibenggu masalah cinta, masalah kewangan, family problems, pain in the arse bosses and so forth, but we still have the chance to make amend, to fight and control our life. It’s not like we are dying, fighting for our very own existence, fighting the unseen disease that’s eating away our nerves and bodily function. It’s not like 1 day we went to bed only to wake up the next morning with our legs unable to move, and then the next day it is hard for us to utter a single syllable…

In her diary, Aya wrote;

‘I wonder where happiness is.I wonder what happiness is.’

‘Why can't I laugh naturally like I used to? I want to go back to the past!I wanna make a time machine and ride it to go back to the past. Watch myself run, walk, roll around, and play with you... but then I come back to reality.Do I really have to come back to reality?I don't wanna grow up!Time...please stop! Tears...stop falling!’Ahh...Aya just can't seem to stop crying.

‘If it weren’t for this disease, I might even be in love. I want to cling to someone’s arm so badly.’

‘Reality is too cruel, too brutal. I don't even have the right to dream. As I think about the future, the tears will come out again.’

‘I really don't want to say things such as "I want to go back to how things were before". I recognize how I am right now, and I will continue to live on.Even though I have been hurt before by those heartless glares this also helped me to understand that around me, there still exists some gentle glares. Therefore, I definitely won't run away. That's what I'll do. Definitely. Always.’

‘Just being alive is such a lovely and wonderful thing.’

Berjurai2 air mataku jatuh mengalir. Membawa keinsafan yang kadang-kadang payah untuk menebusi kepala batuku ini. So looking at her struggles, my problems seem to be so miniscule….

Kita yang boleh bercinta, sia-siakan cinta. Tercari2 yang lebih baik. Tak pernah cukup kan. Sedangkan ada manusia di luar sana yang hidup sendirian, tiada berteman. Teridam-idamkan teman bersama di kala senang dan susah, tawa dan duka.

Life is full with problems and hardships. We struggle constantly. Sometimes we win but other times; life gets the better of us. There’s only so much we can do. Other than that, let nature take its course.

Hidup penuh ranjau…tapi sekurang-kurangnya kita masih hidup bukan!

Confessions of a Shopaholic

Went to the premiere of Confession of a Shopaholic last night @ Cineleisure Mutiara Damansara. Got the ticket form bro café yang tanpa jemu menberikan aku discount apabila aku terlupa membawa duit lebih ketika membeli loh see fun atau dry wantan mee. Dengan hanya berbekalkan meal card and senyuman konon comel, aku terus hidup dan berkembang mekar di office yang 'macam-macam ada' ini.hehe.

Confession of a Shopaholic told the story of a young, vibrant woman, Rebecca Bloomwood (Bex) who has this uncontrollable urge to shop even if that burying herself up to the eyeball with credit card debt! She’s trying to land her dream job as a fashion journalist at ALLETE Magazine but ended up at financial mag as a columnist for personal finance under the pen-name ‘Girl with Green Scarf’. She wove web of lies and kept on continuing drowning herself in debt because she just can’t ignore the calling of Prada (gimme those bags!!!), Gucci (can’t blame her, the shoes are gorgeous!), Macy. Yves Saint Laurent (I’m in heaven on earth!), Barneys, Catherine Malandrino and Marc Jacobs (the shades…oh..my heart stops beating!), just to name A FEW!. Things then begin to unravel and she needs to set aside her priorities and make up to her best friend, Suze, her hunk of a boss, Luke and her parents.

I love the way she described her feeling about shopping;

"You know that thing when you see someone cute and he smiles and your heart kind of goes like warm butter sliding down hot toast? Well that's what it's like when I see a store. Only it's better."

“Shopping and store is much nicer than man because when you are not satisfied with the dress, you can always return it back to the store 7 days later for cashmere”.

Eloquently put I should say. Hehe. Store never disappoints you, only bleed you dry.

But what really got me thinking is what her father told her when she said the RV defines her father.

“That doesn’t define me. Only you and your mother define who I am”

So true eh? People are getting too materialistic, emphasizing on worldly belonging. Status is defined by the possession of wealth. Beauty is defined by the designer clothes even if it is butt-ugly Ferragamo’s, people will still buy it. Success is defined by the ability to move within this circle and shoulder-rubbing and hobnobbing with the who’s who of the town.

This movie tries to combine the Devil Wear Prada and Legally Blonde, essentially. It may seem comical but it does have an underlying message to convey such as relationship between people, trust, loyalty, and so forth.

P/s: My sister totally needs to watch this!